A famous quote… "Two men look out through the same bars: one sees the mud, and one sees the stars."  So says Frederick Langbridge in his "A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts" (which, if you're interested, you'll find at Google Books and probably Amazon). 

Life is filled with choices.  Is yours a pessimist’s view; living a self-defeated life or do you take the optimist’s route, enjoying a challenging and fulfilling life?  Let me ask you… if you’ve placed second in a contest, do you jump for joy and push for better results the next time or are you discouraged and find an excuse not to do this again? 
Optimism provides a positive mood and a good life. It allows you academic, athletic and occupational success as well as good health and a potentially longer life.
Rates of depression and pessimism have never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. The age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder but also a teenager’s disorder’ as well.
It really pays to be an optimist.  Optimists expect the best… from themselves and from others.  While pessimists tend to believe bad events are their own fault. 
Optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks as the pessimists of this world. What's different is the way they deal with their misfortune.   They tend to focus on and plan for the 'problem' at hand. They use 'positive reinterpretation.'  In other words, they interpret any negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow.  They're unfazed by a bad situation. They see it as challenge, and try harder.  They don’t say “things will never get better,” or “If I failed once, it will happen again.”  If they fall, they stand up again. They see opportunities instead of obstacles.  And people respond positively to optimists.
Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and it can influence the people around them.
Optimists persevere. They don’t give up easily.  They're also known for their patience, inching their way a step closer to that goal or dream.  Optimists also tend to be healthier and live longer.  Simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body's ability to fight disease, so their health is usually good. They age well; are freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age. And they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts. 
Have I described you?  Are you one of life's optimists?  Or have you been suffering as a pessimist?  You're the only one that can change this.  It really is just a state of mind.  Your mind.  Why not decide to be an optimist?  And think positively towards a more fulfilled life.
Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors?  Why not be resilient?  Like everyone else you are bound to hit lows sometimes… just don't stay there.  Carry yourself out of "the mud" and get back on the right track. 
The next time you find yourself with the blues, try giving yourself a good talking to. This is something that has worked for me for years.  Try "this isn't me!"  And "come on (your name) what's the positive side to this?"  Or "How do I improve this situation… now?!"  Find something that works for you, before that usual pessimism really takes hold again.  
Use this technique every time you find yourself miserable… for whatever reason.  There's no magic solution.  If you've spent most of your life as a pessimist, it's going to take work.  And time.  But the rewards are huge.  Can you imagine living your life as a hopeful, happy, confident person?  Expecting the best and seeing the best in everything?
Decide that this "miserable person" isn't you.  Remove those dark glasses and start to see life on the bright side.  Would today be a good day to start?
Christine R.
P.S. I've been thinking about what I could do to help.  If you believe that your overall pessimism may be due to stress, perhaps I can.  It's darned hard to be optimistic if you're stressed out.  Go to the Stress Relief section under the Health & Wellness heading above here.  There are three terrific products there to help with stress.  Decide which one suits your particular needs and click on the "Click Here to Order Now" button for that one.  You'll see a section "Enter Coupon Code".  Enter "60%off" without the inverted commas; click "Apply" and you'll see the amount reduce to the new, much lower figure.  I can't leave it like this for long. Just until the next time I post, in a day or two.  If you think it's stress that's holding you back… check this out now.
"There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure." – Colin Powell
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