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PostHeaderIcon Will Your New Year Resolutions Last?

Making new year resolutions!  How many times have we all made resolutions for the new year – and given up almost immediately?  How familiar is that?    So, here's a helping hand for 2013.  Could be that these five tips just might help you succeed this time.

1.  Select and define your goals…
If you're trying to change your behaviour in some way, decide in advance what it is that you're going to achieve… and stick to it.  In fact… write it down and use it as an affirmation.  For example, you might set yourself an exercise goal of five days a week.  Perhaps a three drink limit on a night out.  Or allow yourself just one chocolate bar a week.  Don't kid yourself that "just one less" or "just one more" won't make a difference.  It will.

2.  Go Cold Turkey for a time… 
Stop the behaviour you're trying to change, altogether, temporarily.  Say you decide to abstain from caffeine,  alcohol or chocolate for four weeks as a start to your new year resolutions.  Doing this makes it much easier to moderate your intake in the future as it helps break that instinctive, habitual activity.

3.  Stop and think…
In that moment when the temptation appears – and it will – pause before you act.  Go do something else, or tell yourself again the reasons why you're trying to abstain or change.  Focus on the positive benefits that this change will bring to you.  Wait five minutes.  By then, the craving will probably have passed.

4.  Reward Yourself…
As each weekly and monthly milestone that you've set for your new year resolutions passes, and you've remained true to your goals, treat yourself to something special… and leave the guilt at home!  You deserve it.  Focus on what you have already achieved – success breeds success. If you slip up, don't punish yourself or use it as a reason to give up altogether (that's the "I just can't do this" excuse).  Just start again immediately. 

5. Choose Your Friends Wisely…
We tend to imitate the actions we experience around us.  If your current friends are all engaging in the negative behaviours you're trying to steer clear of, how would it be if you remove yourself from temptation, for a while at least?  Why not surround yourself with positive people whose attitudes towards life inspire you?

Realise that it's going to be hard at first.  These might be habits and behaviours that you've been indulging in for years!  Just decide that you can do this… then get on and do it.  Ready?  Grab a pen and paper and set those new year resolutions now.  Have a wonderful 2013.  May it bring you everything you're wishing for.  Good luck.


P.S.  Check the last post "A Merry Christmas Gift" before the last tick of 2012 when it expires.  Don't want you to miss out.


PostHeaderIcon The Law of Attraction… Not Working?

Are you having a problem with making The Law of Attraction work for you?   If that's so, it's really important to become aware of the things which are blocking your ability to attract what it is that you want.  Focusing on what you want for a few minutes a day is not enough to deeply attract.   Let me tell you a quick story – what happened to me recently.

It's a few months ago now since I mentioned this blog, to a close acquaintance.  Let's call him Brian (not his real name but he has given me permission to talk to you about his story).   Brian had checked out the site and then this week gave me a call asking, “How can I get the law of attraction to work for me fast?”  
He mentioned that he was in trouble; had lost his job shortly after we last talked and had been unsuccessful so far in finding another.  He also admitted he was now behind in his mortgage payments and had no family locally to turn to.  I could feel his nervousness and anxiety and understood that he was willing to try just about anything to get his life back on track.  
He kept saying, “I have applied the law of attraction and I've been working on it for weeks now, but it’s just not happening for me. Why is it not working for me?"  After quite a chat we discovered an important key factor that I was sure had a lot to do with him being unsuccessful with the law of attraction.
One question I asked him which came as a surprise to him was, “How do you spend your free time?  When you're not job hunting or looking after your home?”  To his mind, his free time hadn’t anything to do with applying the law of attraction.  He told me of his best friend who had been home sick for nearly a year and had not been working.  The two of them were spending quite a bit of time together talking about life and all the frustrations that came with being out of work.  
He didn't seem to realize that while engaging in his friends frustrations he was also locking himself into the same sort of "attraction" as his friend.    When I mentioned that he had been focusing a lot of attention on his lack of money and lack of work and that this could be causing his failed efforts in gaining results with the law of attraction, he told me that he visualizes what he wants everyday for at least five minutes.  
Brian clearly didn't understand the science behind the law of attraction which is, that the greater amount of focus to anything, would determine his attraction.  Since he spent only five minutes or so on what he did desire, but a good part of the rest of his day on the things he didn't want… he continued to get more of what he didn't want. 
He didn't seem to understand that it didn't matter if he was just talking about it with his friend or watching negative news about employment rates, etc., on television and being filled with anxiety as he talked about it or watched, it was all an "attraction".
“So how do I focus more on something that isn't there yet?”   "Surround yourself by it", I told him.  "Since you're not working and you want to attract more money and a better life, spend more of your time with people who are happy with what they are doing.  People whose lives are on track.  People who are positive".  
"Reduce the time you see and speak of the things which remind you of lack of money and failure.  In fact, try to limit the time you spend with that friend… not for good; only until you can make the changes that you want.  The law of attraction will reward you for it".
To successfully apply the law of attraction it takes pre-creating what you want.  That simply means that you must first energize yourself to the same level of the thing you want to attract in your life.  Sometimes that also means cutting out the people or places that are in opposition to what you want to have; those people or experiences that you find negative.  
To help Brian get back on track, I persuaded him to accept a copy of Rebecca Stuarts' "Discover The Law of Attraction".  He didn't want to take it at first, but I told him he could send me something for it out of his first pay packet in his new job.  And then I thought about how close it is to Christmas and how many other people are also struggling with applying the Law of Attraction.  
So here's an early Christmas Gift for you.  Go take a good look at DiscoverTheLawofAttraction and if you believe it could help you, don't buy it from the site… come back here and click this link for a full 50% off.
I thought Rebecca's price was unbelievably good value to start with, but with the 50% off that she's been good enough to make available to readers, that reduces it to just $18.50 for 30 eBooks that show you literally step by step how to have The Law of Attraction work for you… and heaps of bonuses including "The Path to Positive Thinking", "Taking Personal Responsibility" and "Achieving Happiness" to name a few.
But you're going to have to be quick.  Rebecca's offering this for just 7 days.  22 November the discount disappears.  Check it out here.   Then click here for access to that massive 50% discount.  Superb product.  Would make a terrific early Christmas gift for yourself.  Or is there someone you know that "Discover The Law of Attraction" would help?  Let them know…before the deadline.  Or simply click on the buttons below to share it with your friends.
Christine R.

PostHeaderIcon Enjoy Life More…

A famous quote… "Two men look out through the same bars: one sees the mud, and one sees the stars."  So says Frederick Langbridge in his "A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts" (which, if you're interested, you'll find at Google Books and probably Amazon). 

Life is filled with choices.  Is yours a pessimist’s view; living a self-defeated life or do you take the optimist’s route, enjoying a challenging and fulfilling life?  Let me ask you… if you’ve placed second in a contest, do you jump for joy and push for better results the next time or are you discouraged and find an excuse not to do this again? 
Optimism provides a positive mood and a good life. It allows you academic, athletic and occupational success as well as good health and a potentially longer life.
Rates of depression and pessimism have never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. The age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder but also a teenager’s disorder’ as well.
It really pays to be an optimist.  Optimists expect the best… from themselves and from others.  While pessimists tend to believe bad events are their own fault. 
Optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks as the pessimists of this world. What's different is the way they deal with their misfortune.   They tend to focus on and plan for the 'problem' at hand. They use 'positive reinterpretation.'  In other words, they interpret any negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow.  They're unfazed by a bad situation. They see it as challenge, and try harder.  They don’t say “things will never get better,” or “If I failed once, it will happen again.”  If they fall, they stand up again. They see opportunities instead of obstacles.  And people respond positively to optimists.
Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and it can influence the people around them.
Optimists persevere. They don’t give up easily.  They're also known for their patience, inching their way a step closer to that goal or dream.  Optimists also tend to be healthier and live longer.  Simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body's ability to fight disease, so their health is usually good. They age well; are freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age. And they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts. 
Have I described you?  Are you one of life's optimists?  Or have you been suffering as a pessimist?  You're the only one that can change this.  It really is just a state of mind.  Your mind.  Why not decide to be an optimist?  And think positively towards a more fulfilled life.
Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors?  Why not be resilient?  Like everyone else you are bound to hit lows sometimes… just don't stay there.  Carry yourself out of "the mud" and get back on the right track. 
The next time you find yourself with the blues, try giving yourself a good talking to. This is something that has worked for me for years.  Try "this isn't me!"  And "come on (your name) what's the positive side to this?"  Or "How do I improve this situation… now?!"  Find something that works for you, before that usual pessimism really takes hold again.  
Use this technique every time you find yourself miserable… for whatever reason.  There's no magic solution.  If you've spent most of your life as a pessimist, it's going to take work.  And time.  But the rewards are huge.  Can you imagine living your life as a hopeful, happy, confident person?  Expecting the best and seeing the best in everything?
Decide that this "miserable person" isn't you.  Remove those dark glasses and start to see life on the bright side.  Would today be a good day to start?
Christine R.
P.S. I've been thinking about what I could do to help.  If you believe that your overall pessimism may be due to stress, perhaps I can.  It's darned hard to be optimistic if you're stressed out.  Go to the Stress Relief section under the Health & Wellness heading above here.  There are three terrific products there to help with stress.  Decide which one suits your particular needs and click on the "Click Here to Order Now" button for that one.  You'll see a section "Enter Coupon Code".  Enter "60%off" without the inverted commas; click "Apply" and you'll see the amount reduce to the new, much lower figure.  I can't leave it like this for long. Just until the next time I post, in a day or two.  If you think it's stress that's holding you back… check this out now.
"There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure." – Colin Powell

PostHeaderIcon 10 Steps To Prosperity & Fulfilment

So you want to be successful, healthy, happily married, and rich?   Do you feel like a successful, healthy, happily married, accepted, rich person?  Or are you experiencing feelings of resistance, frustration, anxiety and insecurity?

Are you feeling needy, lost, rejected and deprived?  Are you envious of what someone else has?  Do you feel guilty and identify with poverty and failure?  Are you surrounded by people who don't believe in you?

It can happen to us all.  But if you're constantly feeling negative about money, success and yourself, you are being defined by lack. If so, your wish for success will remain just that – a wish. If you continually feel depressed, annoyed, upset, and irritated with yourself or the outside world, you are generating heaps of negative vibrations. 

What if I told you that it's up to you to create an alternate future and set forces to work for you, rather then against you. Habits are like clothes… you wear them.  They fit your personality and self-image.  Some clothes make you feel like a million dollars while others make you feel fat.  So often, we wear the same old clothes just because we are used to them.  The same can be said for mental habits and feelings.

More than 90% of your thoughts and reactions were learned.  Whenever a situation arises that reminds you of the past you tend to interpret it through old emotional responses.  If you were bullied a lot as a child, you have to help yourself move through your fearful feelings every time you're reminded of the bullying. 

When you deal with your feelings and imagine your life as you'd like it to be, you're starting to heal your past memory and move into the present moment.  Instead of being reactive you become proactive!

Let's get started on turning those negative feelings around.  Here's 10 helping hands towards the life you deserve… one of prosperity and fulfilment:

1. Listen to your inner conversations.  What are your mental habits telling you?  A poverty mindset knows why things can't work out.  A successful mindset always steps up to the plate and looks for a way to work through a crisis. Start having discussions with yourself the moment you feel a hysterical reaction coming on.  If you get in the habit of intervening on your own behalf you will start to hold a correct attitude and change your emotional reactions.

2. Meet the Challenge.  If you have a melt down and lose your focus, freak out, and go into an emotional tail spin, once it's over go back to your image and refocus.  You don't have to beat yourself up because you "lost" it.  A fall out doesn't have to become a major set back.  You are learning to identify when you are vibrating from an error pattern.  Things may still scare and upset you for awhile.Y  ou are in the process of building self-trust and self-confidence. You will be able to meet an obstacle every step of the way once you develop a good relationship with your deeper Self.

3. Congratulate yourself.  Give yourself credit when you react to a negative situation as an opportunity rather then a setback.  Get in the habit of comforting and nourishing yourself when things don't go right and you'll start not to succumb to destructive emotions.  Each time you do this you'll make a deposit into your emotional security bank.  And feeling safe and secure is the vibration that attracts prosperity.  Keep investing in yourself and you will start to resonate with abundance and optimism.  Before you know it, you will start feeling entitled to having good relationships and success!

4. Throw off the old you.  If something happens that threatens your peace of mind, reassure yourself that all is well. How?  Direct all of your attention to that which is good.  Focus is the winner's companion. In time you will learn how to keep your cool when those debilitating thoughts show up.

5. Treat yourself well.  You don't need to prove that you are a failure anymore. You need to treat yourself like someone you love and care about. Once you get in the habit of feeling lovable and acceptable you will repel abusive people.

6. Let go. I t is time to clean house and surrender your concepts of lack.  Why allow negative people to scramble your brain?  Why keep reminding yourself of painful uncomfortable times?  Let go and let the Power work for you.  Let go means let go!  Make room for the money, success, healing, and fulfilling relationships you desire to be drawn to you.  You deserve to feel like you are Number 1. If you need to have a good cry, have it.  Once it's over persist in letting the "old you" go.

7. Accept Responsibility.  Make changes gradually and you will start feeling better about yourself.  Start to imagine the new you.  How many times do you need to do this?  Do it and do it and do it until you change your emotional point of attraction.

8. Commit to new results.  Keep the partnership between your conscious and subconscious mind strong and success will be your closest companion.

9. Feel like a million bucks.  Feel good. If you want to realize your dream for success, start feeling grateful about your success. Accentuate the positive and you'll build up your vibrational frequency.

10. Don't look back!   Once you have consciously imagined a new result, don't turn your attention back to your former concept of yourself.  If you do, you will reimpress yourself with what you don't want, and go back to a lower emotional frequency.  Success, health, happiness and wealth don't just pop in.  Most visionaries who are wealthy, successful, healthy, and happy have certain things in common.  These people have a certain mindset that include big dreams, good habits, imagination, strong positive beliefs, unshakable inner confidence and a connection to The Source of All That Is.

They don't just "talk the talk, they walk the walk".   Be like them… use spiritual principles to attract positive outcomes by focusing your conscious mind and absorb new ideas until you feel entitled to the gift of a new experience.  You'll start to love and enjoy the adventure of life.  You'll attract money, opportunities, good people, and harmonious situations that reflect your new mindset.

The only thing standing between you and the fulfilment of your dreams is an opposing belief and feeling… not bad luck or a past life.   If you truly want to bring the object of your thoughts into manifestation you have to make a conscious decision to get in the habit of feeling prosperous, happy, grateful, accepted, healthy, loved and successful… here and now.

I really hope this works for you.  If you truly try your best with these ten steps and it doesn't appear to be working for you, then perhaps you need the more detailed help that's available at

Would it help to have a copy of these 10 steps?  Just click here to safely download a free pdf file.  Then save it to your harddrive, perhaps with the others you see at "Download A Copy" in the left hand column.

Remember… there is no-one to change but yourself and no-one can do it but you.  Good luck.

Christine R


PostHeaderIcon “Being Happy” Can Be Easy…

For the lucky ones, happiness comes easily, but for most of us, it's something we need to work at.  The good news is that it's not hard, if you know how.  By practising the principles of the CHOOSE philosophy, you can boost your happiness and your wellbeing.

Clarity (of goals, direction and life purpose).  Set clear targets and make specific plans to ensure they become reality.
Healthy living (activity and exercise, diet, nurtrition and sleep).  It's hard to be happy if you're sick and tired all the time.  Do whatever you can to be healthy and you boost your chances of cracking a smile.
Optimism (positive, but realistic, thinking).  Happy people see themselves and the world differently.  They search for more positives.  This is a learned behaviour, so start practising now!
Others (the key relationshipsin your life).  Research indicates that happy people have more (and better quality) relationships than those who are negative.  Devote time to developing and fostering your key connections.
Strengths (your qualities and attributes).  Rather than spending time trying to fix their "weaknesses", happy  people use more time identifying and utilising their strengths.  Find out what you're good at and do it as much as possible.
Enjoy (things… and live in and appreciate the present).  By taking in the moment, you'll love life a lot more.
A big "thank you" to Dr. Timothy Sharp, aka Dr. Happy for these words.  Give it a try?
Christine R.

PostHeaderIcon Impossible Is Just A Word

Haven't you dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big?  How many guys haven't fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning homerun or creating the next big thing in computer software?  What young lady hasn't dreamed of being the homecoming queen or a world famous model… or singer?  And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?

We dream big dreams and have great aspirations.  But for most people, dreams remain just that – dreams!  Instead of experiencing exciting adventures we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day.  But you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher.
The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible.  Most people get hung up thinking "I can't do this."  "It's too hard."  "It's impossible. No one can do this."  But just think… if everyone thought like that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment.  Limit yourself with self-doubt, and you will never be able to break past what you've decided is impossible. 
Try this exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in your life.  Go ahead… write down anything and everything you've ever wished for or dreamed about.  Take another piece of paper and under one heading of "things I know I can do’ make a list.  Under another heading write the things ‘I might be able to do.’  And under one more, list the things that that are ‘impossible for me to do.’   Think about it before completing the last list.  Don't add to it things that are really unrealistic.  By now, you've added all the things on your original list of goals, to one of the three columns.
Why should you do all this?  Simple… if you have no goals in life, then you truly are "just existing".  Why not decide to change this… today!
Now look at the headings and your lists.  Strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things ‘I know I can do’.  Check them off as you accomplish them.  Believe me, that's a really good feeling and can be quite addictive… which is good.  Right?  Once you are able to check all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the next heading – the one that reads ‘I might be able to do.’
As all of the items you wrote under "I might be able to do" are accomplished, you can move the goals that are under things that are ‘impossible for me to do’ to the list of things ‘I might be able to do.’
As you go gradually through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible become easier to accomplish.  Those "impossibles" begin to seem possible after all.   The technique here is to not limit your imagination.  It is to aim high, and start working towards that goal little by little.  Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard towards it, end up disappointed and disillusioned.
If you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind.  But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.
Ask any gym junkie and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you strive out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying, “No pain, no gain”?  That is as true as it can be.
So dream on my friend!   Don’t get caught up, or held back, with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain your dreams.  Putting your dreams on paper is the first step.  Then, as you step up the ladder of progress towards your goals, you will find out that the "impossible" has just become a little bit more possible.
Christine R.
"You are as amazing as you let yourself be. 
Let me repeat that. You are as amazing as you let yourself be". 
~Elizabeth Alraune

PostHeaderIcon Easy 5 Minute Meditation

Need an instant calm?  Try this five minute quick fix.

Lie or sit down comfortably and close your eyes.  If you can… do this outside.

Take a slow, deep breath through your nose, filling your chest and abdomen.

Exhale slowly through your mouth, completely emptying your lungs.

Continue breathing like this.

As you exhale, imagine that you're breathing out all of your worries and stress. Feel your body gradually becoming relaxed.

Now concentrate on the ground beneath you. Even if you're not… imagine that you're outside. Feel the grass beneath you and the soil beneath that.

Pay attention to what your senses are telling you. Smell the grass. Listen to the sound of the wind. Feel the air; the breeze on your skin.

When you're feeling calm, rested and quiet, you're done.  

I've been using this quick meditation for a long time now.  The more you do it, the quicker the results.  It's a refuge for any time that you're feeling stressed.  All you need is 5 minutes and somewhere quiet and private.  It will work for you… just give it a try.


Learn more about meditation?  Head for the Health & Wellness section.


Christine R.


PostHeaderIcon Law of Attraction – Not Working?

I've seen so many people 'beat themselves up' as they learn about the Law of Attraction or The Secret and try to apply it in their lives. Why are they so hard on themselves? 

When their desire doesn't materialize in a few days, they think that they aren't doing it right or that they don't believe enough. They are under the impression that in order to receive, they must have 100% belief – no doubt at all.  And so they try to convince themselves, and the Universe, that they DO have 100% belief – when they know, in their heart, they don't.

Have you studied The Law of Attraction and bought "The Secret" too? Are you one of the many who've tried everything they can think of to have The Law of Attraction work for them… but it just doesn't?!

Here's the good news! I was asked to put a limited edition bonus pack together for a new product "Discover The World of Attraction".  So I was able to take a really good look at the product itself.  And for all of you right now thinking "but I know all about the LOA… just not how to make it work"… you will soon.

"Discover The World of Attraction" is an in-depth look at what you need to know about yourself (yes… really!) to have the Law of Attraction actually work for you.

The possibility has probably already occurred to you that it was something to do with you personally… why the wishes and dreams you've been "putting out to the universe" just haven't come to fruition. You were right. You're where it all starts… but it's knowing how. With the right advice, whatever you want in life will start to become your reality.

Go take a look at "Discover The Law of Attraction" and start to believe that it's possible for you to have what you've asked for.  All you need to do is tip the scales slightly by learning what it is that's holding you back, and you'll begin to notice small (or big) evidence that your desires are on their way.

By the end of those thirty, easy to follow lessons, you'll know exactly what you need to do. If you can believe… you will receive.

And wait until you see what I put together for that huge bonus!  Check it out by clicking here.

Christine R.




PostHeaderIcon Your Inner Smile

I thought I would let you in on something I've been doing for myself for the past couple of weeks since I discovered this ancient Taoist practice that gives you an easy way to achieve a healthy state of mind, body and soul.  It’s a self help system for curing illness and stress and for enhancing all aspects of life.  The most famous practitioner of “The Inner Smile” is Grand Master Mantak Chia.  A google search will tell you more about him. 

For the best results Grand Master Chia recommends you practice the meditation both in the morning and at night before bed.  Your mood and sleep should improve, but only with practice, as with anything new. 

Sit comfortably on the edge of a chair with your palms on your knees.  Straighten your spine, lifting it up from the top of your head.  Then relax the muscles in your neck and throat.  Close your eyes.  If you believe you are tense, gently move your neck from side to side and take a couple of deep, deep breaths.  

Next, smile outwardly, using a positive memory to bring you a feeling of happiness.  And once you’ve a smile on your face, it’s time to smile inwardly. 

Picture a smiley face in your mind.  Bring that smile to the space between your eyebrows – your third eye or “yin tang” in Chinese medicine – allowing it to rest there for a few breaths. 

Now, take the smile and gently move it in turn to each part of your body.  Imagine your body as hollow and the smile as a glowing ball of light filling every dark corner.  If your smile gets stuck or fades at a tense of painful spot, breathe gently into that part of your body, imagining inhaled breath moving into that area.

If you’ve not meditated before, be aware that this is going to take some practice.  But it’s so worth it for the difference it will make to yourself and your life.

Reconnecting with your inner smile during the day – these are known as "half smiles".

1.  Put something in your bedroom that you see right away when you wake up.  Use this time before you get out of bed to take your first half smile of the day.   Do your morning full meditation before you leave for work or get started on your day.

 2.  Any free moments that you can find throughout the day… look at a child, a painting on the wall, a tree or just a cloud formation… anything that is relatively still.  Smile.  Inhale and exhale quietly three times.  Maintain the smile for as long as you can.

 3.  Angry?  Do your inner smile straight away.  Inhale and exhale quietly.  The anger should go away.

Having trouble imagining that “smiley face?”   Perhaps you’d enjoy the one I use.  I found it easier to concentrate on a smiley face that I'd actually seen.  I use a smiling sun, so that I can feel the warmth as well as enjoy the smile.  Click here to get your copy.  Print it out and put it in various places where you’re likely to practice your Inner Smile.  Enjoy.

 Christine R 


PostHeaderIcon Taking Control of Your Life…

Are you frustrated by your challenges in life?  Do you have frequent feelings of being overwhelmed?  This can become a self perpetuating negative outlook and can make it even harder for you to manage those challenges and move forward.

Practicing positive thinking allows you to focus on your strengths and accomplishments, and this goes a long way to increasing your happiness and motivation.  In turn, this can allow us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling downright miserable and stuck.

Let's take a look at some practical suggestions that you could use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:

1. Take Good Care of Yourself –
It's much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.

2. Remind Yourself of What You Are Grateful For –
I've mentioned this before in previous posts. Stresses and challenges don't seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in your life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and
appreciate the good things can make a huge difference in your life.

3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions –
A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking. But our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member's bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Don't waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.

4. Try To Refrain from Using Absolutes –
Have you ever told a partner "You're ALWAYS late!" or complained to a friend "You NEVER call me!"? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like 'always' and 'never' makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of

5. Detach Yourself From Negative Thoughts –
Your thoughts can't hold any power over you if you don't judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don't follow it. In fact, try to immediately replace it with a positive thought.

6. Squash the "ANTs" –
In his book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life," Dr. Daniel Amen talks about "ANTs" – Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like "Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me," or "The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!" When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!

7. Practice Lovin', Touchin' & Squeezin' (Your Friends and Family) –
You don't have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks.  She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn't touch!  Human contact… there's nothing like it.

8. Increase Your Social Activity –
By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. I know it's sometimes a huge effort, but you owe it to yourself to be surrounded with healthy, happy people.  Their positive energy can't help but affect you in a positive way!  Got a friend who's always being negative? Move on and find a new friend.  Seriously!

9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help Another Person –
Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.

10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Focusing On Negative Thoughts –
If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different.  Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It's never
productive, because it's not rational or solution-oriented. It's just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment – go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.

It all comes down to a very simple way to live your life… keep turning negatives into positives. It takes practice.  Sometimes lots of it if you've been going through a negative patch.  But by the time it becomes something you do automatically, you won't recognize yourself or your life.  Is it worth a try?

All the best.
Christine R.