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PostHeaderIcon Enjoy Life More…

A famous quote… "Two men look out through the same bars: one sees the mud, and one sees the stars."  So says Frederick Langbridge in his "A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts" (which, if you're interested, you'll find at Google Books and probably Amazon). 

Life is filled with choices.  Is yours a pessimist’s view; living a self-defeated life or do you take the optimist’s route, enjoying a challenging and fulfilling life?  Let me ask you… if you’ve placed second in a contest, do you jump for joy and push for better results the next time or are you discouraged and find an excuse not to do this again? 
 
Optimism provides a positive mood and a good life. It allows you academic, athletic and occupational success as well as good health and a potentially longer life.
 
Rates of depression and pessimism have never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. The age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder but also a teenager’s disorder’ as well.
 
It really pays to be an optimist.  Optimists expect the best… from themselves and from others.  While pessimists tend to believe bad events are their own fault. 
 
Optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks as the pessimists of this world. What's different is the way they deal with their misfortune.   They tend to focus on and plan for the 'problem' at hand. They use 'positive reinterpretation.'  In other words, they interpret any negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow.  They're unfazed by a bad situation. They see it as challenge, and try harder.  They don’t say “things will never get better,” or “If I failed once, it will happen again.”  If they fall, they stand up again. They see opportunities instead of obstacles.  And people respond positively to optimists.
 
Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and it can influence the people around them.
 
Optimists persevere. They don’t give up easily.  They're also known for their patience, inching their way a step closer to that goal or dream.  Optimists also tend to be healthier and live longer.  Simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body's ability to fight disease, so their health is usually good. They age well; are freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age. And they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts. 
 
Have I described you?  Are you one of life's optimists?  Or have you been suffering as a pessimist?  You're the only one that can change this.  It really is just a state of mind.  Your mind.  Why not decide to be an optimist?  And think positively towards a more fulfilled life.
 
Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors?  Why not be resilient?  Like everyone else you are bound to hit lows sometimes… just don't stay there.  Carry yourself out of "the mud" and get back on the right track. 
 
The next time you find yourself with the blues, try giving yourself a good talking to. This is something that has worked for me for years.  Try "this isn't me!"  And "come on (your name) what's the positive side to this?"  Or "How do I improve this situation… now?!"  Find something that works for you, before that usual pessimism really takes hold again.  
 
Use this technique every time you find yourself miserable… for whatever reason.  There's no magic solution.  If you've spent most of your life as a pessimist, it's going to take work.  And time.  But the rewards are huge.  Can you imagine living your life as a hopeful, happy, confident person?  Expecting the best and seeing the best in everything?
 
Decide that this "miserable person" isn't you.  Remove those dark glasses and start to see life on the bright side.  Would today be a good day to start?
 
Christine R.
 
P.S. I've been thinking about what I could do to help.  If you believe that your overall pessimism may be due to stress, perhaps I can.  It's darned hard to be optimistic if you're stressed out.  Go to the Stress Relief section under the Health & Wellness heading above here.  There are three terrific products there to help with stress.  Decide which one suits your particular needs and click on the "Click Here to Order Now" button for that one.  You'll see a section "Enter Coupon Code".  Enter "60%off" without the inverted commas; click "Apply" and you'll see the amount reduce to the new, much lower figure.  I can't leave it like this for long. Just until the next time I post, in a day or two.  If you think it's stress that's holding you back… check this out now.
 
"There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure." – Colin Powell
 
 

PostHeaderIcon 10 Steps To Prosperity & Fulfilment

So you want to be successful, healthy, happily married, and rich?   Do you feel like a successful, healthy, happily married, accepted, rich person?  Or are you experiencing feelings of resistance, frustration, anxiety and insecurity?

Are you feeling needy, lost, rejected and deprived?  Are you envious of what someone else has?  Do you feel guilty and identify with poverty and failure?  Are you surrounded by people who don't believe in you?

It can happen to us all.  But if you're constantly feeling negative about money, success and yourself, you are being defined by lack. If so, your wish for success will remain just that – a wish. If you continually feel depressed, annoyed, upset, and irritated with yourself or the outside world, you are generating heaps of negative vibrations. 

What if I told you that it's up to you to create an alternate future and set forces to work for you, rather then against you. Habits are like clothes… you wear them.  They fit your personality and self-image.  Some clothes make you feel like a million dollars while others make you feel fat.  So often, we wear the same old clothes just because we are used to them.  The same can be said for mental habits and feelings.

More than 90% of your thoughts and reactions were learned.  Whenever a situation arises that reminds you of the past you tend to interpret it through old emotional responses.  If you were bullied a lot as a child, you have to help yourself move through your fearful feelings every time you're reminded of the bullying. 

When you deal with your feelings and imagine your life as you'd like it to be, you're starting to heal your past memory and move into the present moment.  Instead of being reactive you become proactive!

Let's get started on turning those negative feelings around.  Here's 10 helping hands towards the life you deserve… one of prosperity and fulfilment:

1. Listen to your inner conversations.  What are your mental habits telling you?  A poverty mindset knows why things can't work out.  A successful mindset always steps up to the plate and looks for a way to work through a crisis. Start having discussions with yourself the moment you feel a hysterical reaction coming on.  If you get in the habit of intervening on your own behalf you will start to hold a correct attitude and change your emotional reactions.

2. Meet the Challenge.  If you have a melt down and lose your focus, freak out, and go into an emotional tail spin, once it's over go back to your image and refocus.  You don't have to beat yourself up because you "lost" it.  A fall out doesn't have to become a major set back.  You are learning to identify when you are vibrating from an error pattern.  Things may still scare and upset you for awhile.Y  ou are in the process of building self-trust and self-confidence. You will be able to meet an obstacle every step of the way once you develop a good relationship with your deeper Self.

3. Congratulate yourself.  Give yourself credit when you react to a negative situation as an opportunity rather then a setback.  Get in the habit of comforting and nourishing yourself when things don't go right and you'll start not to succumb to destructive emotions.  Each time you do this you'll make a deposit into your emotional security bank.  And feeling safe and secure is the vibration that attracts prosperity.  Keep investing in yourself and you will start to resonate with abundance and optimism.  Before you know it, you will start feeling entitled to having good relationships and success!

4. Throw off the old you.  If something happens that threatens your peace of mind, reassure yourself that all is well. How?  Direct all of your attention to that which is good.  Focus is the winner's companion. In time you will learn how to keep your cool when those debilitating thoughts show up.

5. Treat yourself well.  You don't need to prove that you are a failure anymore. You need to treat yourself like someone you love and care about. Once you get in the habit of feeling lovable and acceptable you will repel abusive people.

6. Let go. I t is time to clean house and surrender your concepts of lack.  Why allow negative people to scramble your brain?  Why keep reminding yourself of painful uncomfortable times?  Let go and let the Power work for you.  Let go means let go!  Make room for the money, success, healing, and fulfilling relationships you desire to be drawn to you.  You deserve to feel like you are Number 1. If you need to have a good cry, have it.  Once it's over persist in letting the "old you" go.

7. Accept Responsibility.  Make changes gradually and you will start feeling better about yourself.  Start to imagine the new you.  How many times do you need to do this?  Do it and do it and do it until you change your emotional point of attraction.

8. Commit to new results.  Keep the partnership between your conscious and subconscious mind strong and success will be your closest companion.

9. Feel like a million bucks.  Feel good. If you want to realize your dream for success, start feeling grateful about your success. Accentuate the positive and you'll build up your vibrational frequency.

10. Don't look back!   Once you have consciously imagined a new result, don't turn your attention back to your former concept of yourself.  If you do, you will reimpress yourself with what you don't want, and go back to a lower emotional frequency.  Success, health, happiness and wealth don't just pop in.  Most visionaries who are wealthy, successful, healthy, and happy have certain things in common.  These people have a certain mindset that include big dreams, good habits, imagination, strong positive beliefs, unshakable inner confidence and a connection to The Source of All That Is.

They don't just "talk the talk, they walk the walk".   Be like them… use spiritual principles to attract positive outcomes by focusing your conscious mind and absorb new ideas until you feel entitled to the gift of a new experience.  You'll start to love and enjoy the adventure of life.  You'll attract money, opportunities, good people, and harmonious situations that reflect your new mindset.

The only thing standing between you and the fulfilment of your dreams is an opposing belief and feeling… not bad luck or a past life.   If you truly want to bring the object of your thoughts into manifestation you have to make a conscious decision to get in the habit of feeling prosperous, happy, grateful, accepted, healthy, loved and successful… here and now.

I really hope this works for you.  If you truly try your best with these ten steps and it doesn't appear to be working for you, then perhaps you need the more detailed help that's available at DiscoverTheLawOfAttraction.com

Would it help to have a copy of these 10 steps?  Just click here to safely download a free pdf file.  Then save it to your harddrive, perhaps with the others you see at "Download A Copy" in the left hand column.

Remember… there is no-one to change but yourself and no-one can do it but you.  Good luck.

Christine R

 

PostHeaderIcon “Being Happy” Can Be Easy…

For the lucky ones, happiness comes easily, but for most of us, it's something we need to work at.  The good news is that it's not hard, if you know how.  By practising the principles of the CHOOSE philosophy, you can boost your happiness and your wellbeing.

Clarity (of goals, direction and life purpose).  Set clear targets and make specific plans to ensure they become reality.
 
Healthy living (activity and exercise, diet, nurtrition and sleep).  It's hard to be happy if you're sick and tired all the time.  Do whatever you can to be healthy and you boost your chances of cracking a smile.
 
Optimism (positive, but realistic, thinking).  Happy people see themselves and the world differently.  They search for more positives.  This is a learned behaviour, so start practising now!
 
Others (the key relationshipsin your life).  Research indicates that happy people have more (and better quality) relationships than those who are negative.  Devote time to developing and fostering your key connections.
 
Strengths (your qualities and attributes).  Rather than spending time trying to fix their "weaknesses", happy  people use more time identifying and utilising their strengths.  Find out what you're good at and do it as much as possible.
 
Enjoy (things… and live in and appreciate the present).  By taking in the moment, you'll love life a lot more.
 
A big "thank you" to Dr. Timothy Sharp, aka Dr. Happy for these words.  Give it a try?
 
Christine R.
 
 
 

PostHeaderIcon Easy 5 Minute Meditation

Need an instant calm?  Try this five minute quick fix.

Lie or sit down comfortably and close your eyes.  If you can… do this outside.

Take a slow, deep breath through your nose, filling your chest and abdomen.

Exhale slowly through your mouth, completely emptying your lungs.

Continue breathing like this.

As you exhale, imagine that you're breathing out all of your worries and stress. Feel your body gradually becoming relaxed.

Now concentrate on the ground beneath you. Even if you're not… imagine that you're outside. Feel the grass beneath you and the soil beneath that.

Pay attention to what your senses are telling you. Smell the grass. Listen to the sound of the wind. Feel the air; the breeze on your skin.

When you're feeling calm, rested and quiet, you're done.  

I've been using this quick meditation for a long time now.  The more you do it, the quicker the results.  It's a refuge for any time that you're feeling stressed.  All you need is 5 minutes and somewhere quiet and private.  It will work for you… just give it a try.

 

Learn more about meditation?  Head for the Health & Wellness section.

 

Christine R.

 

PostHeaderIcon Your Inner Smile

I thought I would let you in on something I've been doing for myself for the past couple of weeks since I discovered this ancient Taoist practice that gives you an easy way to achieve a healthy state of mind, body and soul.  It’s a self help system for curing illness and stress and for enhancing all aspects of life.  The most famous practitioner of “The Inner Smile” is Grand Master Mantak Chia.  A google search will tell you more about him. 

For the best results Grand Master Chia recommends you practice the meditation both in the morning and at night before bed.  Your mood and sleep should improve, but only with practice, as with anything new. 

Sit comfortably on the edge of a chair with your palms on your knees.  Straighten your spine, lifting it up from the top of your head.  Then relax the muscles in your neck and throat.  Close your eyes.  If you believe you are tense, gently move your neck from side to side and take a couple of deep, deep breaths.  

Next, smile outwardly, using a positive memory to bring you a feeling of happiness.  And once you’ve a smile on your face, it’s time to smile inwardly. 

Picture a smiley face in your mind.  Bring that smile to the space between your eyebrows – your third eye or “yin tang” in Chinese medicine – allowing it to rest there for a few breaths. 

Now, take the smile and gently move it in turn to each part of your body.  Imagine your body as hollow and the smile as a glowing ball of light filling every dark corner.  If your smile gets stuck or fades at a tense of painful spot, breathe gently into that part of your body, imagining inhaled breath moving into that area.

If you’ve not meditated before, be aware that this is going to take some practice.  But it’s so worth it for the difference it will make to yourself and your life.

Reconnecting with your inner smile during the day – these are known as "half smiles".

1.  Put something in your bedroom that you see right away when you wake up.  Use this time before you get out of bed to take your first half smile of the day.   Do your morning full meditation before you leave for work or get started on your day.

 2.  Any free moments that you can find throughout the day… look at a child, a painting on the wall, a tree or just a cloud formation… anything that is relatively still.  Smile.  Inhale and exhale quietly three times.  Maintain the smile for as long as you can.

 3.  Angry?  Do your inner smile straight away.  Inhale and exhale quietly.  The anger should go away.

Having trouble imagining that “smiley face?”   Perhaps you’d enjoy the one I use.  I found it easier to concentrate on a smiley face that I'd actually seen.  I use a smiling sun, so that I can feel the warmth as well as enjoy the smile.  Click here to get your copy.  Print it out and put it in various places where you’re likely to practice your Inner Smile.  Enjoy.

 Christine R 

 

PostHeaderIcon Taking Control of Your Life…

Are you frustrated by your challenges in life?  Do you have frequent feelings of being overwhelmed?  This can become a self perpetuating negative outlook and can make it even harder for you to manage those challenges and move forward.

Practicing positive thinking allows you to focus on your strengths and accomplishments, and this goes a long way to increasing your happiness and motivation.  In turn, this can allow us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling downright miserable and stuck.

Let's take a look at some practical suggestions that you could use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:

1. Take Good Care of Yourself –
It's much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.

2. Remind Yourself of What You Are Grateful For –
I've mentioned this before in previous posts. Stresses and challenges don't seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in your life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and
appreciate the good things can make a huge difference in your life.

3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions –
A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking. But our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member's bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Don't waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.

4. Try To Refrain from Using Absolutes –
Have you ever told a partner "You're ALWAYS late!" or complained to a friend "You NEVER call me!"? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like 'always' and 'never' makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of
delivering.

5. Detach Yourself From Negative Thoughts –
Your thoughts can't hold any power over you if you don't judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don't follow it. In fact, try to immediately replace it with a positive thought.

6. Squash the "ANTs" –
In his book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life," Dr. Daniel Amen talks about "ANTs" – Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like "Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me," or "The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!" When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!

7. Practice Lovin', Touchin' & Squeezin' (Your Friends and Family) –
You don't have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks.  She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn't touch!  Human contact… there's nothing like it.

8. Increase Your Social Activity –
By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. I know it's sometimes a huge effort, but you owe it to yourself to be surrounded with healthy, happy people.  Their positive energy can't help but affect you in a positive way!  Got a friend who's always being negative? Move on and find a new friend.  Seriously!

9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help Another Person –
Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.

10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Focusing On Negative Thoughts –
If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different.  Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It's never
productive, because it's not rational or solution-oriented. It's just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment – go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.

It all comes down to a very simple way to live your life… keep turning negatives into positives. It takes practice.  Sometimes lots of it if you've been going through a negative patch.  But by the time it becomes something you do automatically, you won't recognize yourself or your life.  Is it worth a try?

All the best.
Christine R.

PostHeaderIcon Being Happy…

Not having a good day today?  Having trouble turning that frown upside down?  These might help…

1.  Be grateful and appreciate everything you have.

Quit focusing on what you don’t have.  Be grateful and appreciate all the good in your life.  It will really increase the possibility of happiness.  Some people keep a “grateful” diary and at the end of each day, write in it what they’ve been grateful for today.

2.  Surround yourself with positive people.

You can “catch” other people’s emotions.  So think hard on who you need as your friends. 

3.  Forgive.

A wise soul once wrote “Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die!”  Let go of old grudges.  Free yourself from that pain.  More happiness comes from less pain. 

4.  Declutter.

You’ve heard all about the mental benefits of decluttering!  Spend just one hour each weekend, starting with one room, until it’s all finished and tidy.  The next weekend, start again in another room.  Now, that’s not hard, is it?  And it’s a great feeling when you complete each room. 

5.  Buy yourself a gift!

There are some days when only shopping will help!  Give in to it. 

6.  Set small goals.

Yes, really small goals.  Work out your major goal.  Set four smaller goals that will help achieve the major one.  Decide which of the smaller goals to do first, second, etc.  Break the first one down into ridiculously small goals… and get the first one done now!  Still procrastinating?  Work on it for just five minutes.  A goal this small simply can’t be intimidating.  Right? 

7.  Delete unhelpful thoughts.

Find yourself thinking negative thoughts.  Stop.  And immediately replace that negative with a positive.  Repetition is the key.  Every negative thought to be replaced with positive.  Trust me… it will become a great habit and you’ll be a whole lot happier. 

8.  Talk like someone who is happy.

So you don’t feel happy today?  But if someone asks how you are, say “terrific” or “great” with a big smile.  Even faking it will improve your mood.  Go ahead… try it.  It works. 

9.  Get out into the fresh air.

It’s now been proven that low levels of Vitamin D can lead to osteoporosis.  Not fun!  If you’re a computerholic or an avid reader… just ten minutes of fresh air and sunshine will supply that Vitamin D as well as lifting your energy and your mood.  Don’t spend the whole lunch hour at your desk.  Aren’t you worth those ten minutes each day?  Or more? 

10.  Plan a trip.

Doesn’t matter if it’s ages away.  It’s having something to look forward to that will drag you through those dark days.  Can’t manage a big trip?  Heck… plan a series of one day outings with friends or family.  Put them in your calendar and start looking forward to them.

Nearly forgot a really big one!  Go out of your way to help someone today.  Think about it… commit to a random act of kindness each day.  Then enjoy the feeling, the euphoria, that can result from being kind to someone.

Want a copy of this "Being Happy" for yourself?  Download it right now.  Click here.  No cost.  In fact, if you know someone who would also enjoy this… you have giveaway rights, so just send it on to them, or tell them where to get it.

Be Happy!

Christine R.

PostHeaderIcon What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do…

Feeling stuck about what to do with your career, your relationship, home, your health, your life in general?  Yes?  So, you'd agree that it’s time to move away from the computer screen or tv and take a good look at what’s turned you into the person you’re not liking today? 

Here’s the steps you could take to "unstick" yourself, and if you'd like your own copy of this as a reminder, you'll find a link at the end of this post, to download an A4 poster of these points. 

1.  Acknowledge the problem:  Understand that whatever you focus on is what you end up getting more of.  (Grab your free copy of “The Master Key” from the “Instant Access” button in the right hand column before you leave this page today).  It’s all those questions… “What am I going to do with my life?”  “What if I’m making the wrong decision?”  that have you stuck and unhappy. 

2.  Change your focus:  Ask yourself the right question… “What can I do?”  and this will have your brain looking for all the ways to make things work. 

3.  Find your motivation and put it on paper:  Discover what motivates you deep down.  Look at what it is you do when you’ve got free time.  Notice your own behaviour.  The right questions to ask yourself… “what did I do last weekend for fun?”  “what blogs did I visit?”  “what books did I read?”  “what am I really good at?”  Start a journal about the answers to these.  Seeing those answers in black and white will really bring the message home to you about where your true motivation lies. 

4.  Do what you love doing:  If you haven’t found your what you love yet, keep looking.  Never settle.  Know that you’ll know when you find it. 

5.  Trust that everything will work out for you:  This is absolutely the hardest step.  You need to let go of the fear that you’re going to make the wrong decisions.  Work very hard at believing that everything is going to be okay.  You have to trust in something and when you can and do, this approach will make all the difference.

Just five things to do.  Can't be that hard?  Right?  For a free, small poster of these five steps, that you can print out and put up somewhere you'll see it often… click here.   Please come on back and let me know if this helps.  Good luck.

Christine R.

PostHeaderIcon Humour Helps!

Are you a fan of Woody Allen?

We all know that humor is the best medicine whenever you are stressed out or just feeling low.  I hope these gems from Woody make a difference to your day:

1. "Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons."

2. "I believe there is something out there watching us.
Unfortunately, it's the government."

3. "There are worse things in life than death. Have you ever spent an evening with an insurance salesman?" This is one of the classics.

4. "Love is the answer, but while you're waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty interesting questions. And if you want more, just keep on asking!"

5. Everybody is a genius. But judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree and it will spend its whole life believing that it is stupid."

6. "Basically my wife was immature. I'd be at home in the bath and she'd come in and sink my boats."

7. "I am not afraid of death, I just don't want to be there when it happens."

8. "I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose."

9. "If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans."

And to sum things up, here is the last of his nuggets of wisdom to go by for today.

10. "The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of thinking about what you don't have."

Christine R.