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PostHeaderIcon “Being Happy” Can Be Easy…

For the lucky ones, happiness comes easily, but for most of us, it's something we need to work at.  The good news is that it's not hard, if you know how.  By practising the principles of the CHOOSE philosophy, you can boost your happiness and your wellbeing.

Clarity (of goals, direction and life purpose).  Set clear targets and make specific plans to ensure they become reality.
 
Healthy living (activity and exercise, diet, nurtrition and sleep).  It's hard to be happy if you're sick and tired all the time.  Do whatever you can to be healthy and you boost your chances of cracking a smile.
 
Optimism (positive, but realistic, thinking).  Happy people see themselves and the world differently.  They search for more positives.  This is a learned behaviour, so start practising now!
 
Others (the key relationshipsin your life).  Research indicates that happy people have more (and better quality) relationships than those who are negative.  Devote time to developing and fostering your key connections.
 
Strengths (your qualities and attributes).  Rather than spending time trying to fix their "weaknesses", happy  people use more time identifying and utilising their strengths.  Find out what you're good at and do it as much as possible.
 
Enjoy (things… and live in and appreciate the present).  By taking in the moment, you'll love life a lot more.
 
A big "thank you" to Dr. Timothy Sharp, aka Dr. Happy for these words.  Give it a try?
 
Christine R.
 
 
 
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PostHeaderIcon Impossible Is Just A Word

Haven't you dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big?  How many guys haven't fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning homerun or creating the next big thing in computer software?  What young lady hasn't dreamed of being the homecoming queen or a world famous model… or singer?  And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?

We dream big dreams and have great aspirations.  But for most people, dreams remain just that – dreams!  Instead of experiencing exciting adventures we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day.  But you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher.
 
The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible.  Most people get hung up thinking "I can't do this."  "It's too hard."  "It's impossible. No one can do this."  But just think… if everyone thought like that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment.  Limit yourself with self-doubt, and you will never be able to break past what you've decided is impossible. 
 
Try this exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in your life.  Go ahead… write down anything and everything you've ever wished for or dreamed about.  Take another piece of paper and under one heading of "things I know I can do’ make a list.  Under another heading write the things ‘I might be able to do.’  And under one more, list the things that that are ‘impossible for me to do.’   Think about it before completing the last list.  Don't add to it things that are really unrealistic.  By now, you've added all the things on your original list of goals, to one of the three columns.
 
Why should you do all this?  Simple… if you have no goals in life, then you truly are "just existing".  Why not decide to change this… today!
 
Now look at the headings and your lists.  Strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things ‘I know I can do’.  Check them off as you accomplish them.  Believe me, that's a really good feeling and can be quite addictive… which is good.  Right?  Once you are able to check all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the next heading – the one that reads ‘I might be able to do.’
 
As all of the items you wrote under "I might be able to do" are accomplished, you can move the goals that are under things that are ‘impossible for me to do’ to the list of things ‘I might be able to do.’
 
As you go gradually through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible become easier to accomplish.  Those "impossibles" begin to seem possible after all.   The technique here is to not limit your imagination.  It is to aim high, and start working towards that goal little by little.  Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard towards it, end up disappointed and disillusioned.
 
If you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind.  But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.
 
Ask any gym junkie and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you strive out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying, “No pain, no gain”?  That is as true as it can be.
 
So dream on my friend!   Don’t get caught up, or held back, with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain your dreams.  Putting your dreams on paper is the first step.  Then, as you step up the ladder of progress towards your goals, you will find out that the "impossible" has just become a little bit more possible.
 
Christine R.
 
"You are as amazing as you let yourself be. 
Let me repeat that. You are as amazing as you let yourself be". 
~Elizabeth Alraune
 
 
 
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PostHeaderIcon Easy 5 Minute Meditation

Need an instant calm?  Try this five minute quick fix.

Lie or sit down comfortably and close your eyes.  If you can… do this outside.

Take a slow, deep breath through your nose, filling your chest and abdomen.

Exhale slowly through your mouth, completely emptying your lungs.

Continue breathing like this.

As you exhale, imagine that you're breathing out all of your worries and stress. Feel your body gradually becoming relaxed.

Now concentrate on the ground beneath you. Even if you're not… imagine that you're outside. Feel the grass beneath you and the soil beneath that.

Pay attention to what your senses are telling you. Smell the grass. Listen to the sound of the wind. Feel the air; the breeze on your skin.

When you're feeling calm, rested and quiet, you're done.  

I've been using this quick meditation for a long time now.  The more you do it, the quicker the results.  It's a refuge for any time that you're feeling stressed.  All you need is 5 minutes and somewhere quiet and private.  It will work for you… just give it a try.

 

Learn more about meditation?  Head for the Health & Wellness section.

 

Christine R.

 

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PostHeaderIcon Law of Attraction – Not Working?

I've seen so many people 'beat themselves up' as they learn about the Law of Attraction or The Secret and try to apply it in their lives. Why are they so hard on themselves? 

When their desire doesn't materialize in a few days, they think that they aren't doing it right or that they don't believe enough. They are under the impression that in order to receive, they must have 100% belief – no doubt at all.  And so they try to convince themselves, and the Universe, that they DO have 100% belief – when they know, in their heart, they don't.

Have you studied The Law of Attraction and bought "The Secret" too? Are you one of the many who've tried everything they can think of to have The Law of Attraction work for them… but it just doesn't?!

Here's the good news! I was asked to put a limited edition bonus pack together for a new product "Discover The World of Attraction".  So I was able to take a really good look at the product itself.  And for all of you right now thinking "but I know all about the LOA… just not how to make it work"… you will soon.

"Discover The World of Attraction" is an in-depth look at what you need to know about yourself (yes… really!) to have the Law of Attraction actually work for you.

The possibility has probably already occurred to you that it was something to do with you personally… why the wishes and dreams you've been "putting out to the universe" just haven't come to fruition. You were right. You're where it all starts… but it's knowing how. With the right advice, whatever you want in life will start to become your reality.

Go take a look at "Discover The Law of Attraction" and start to believe that it's possible for you to have what you've asked for.  All you need to do is tip the scales slightly by learning what it is that's holding you back, and you'll begin to notice small (or big) evidence that your desires are on their way.

By the end of those thirty, easy to follow lessons, you'll know exactly what you need to do. If you can believe… you will receive.

And wait until you see what I put together for that huge bonus!  Check it out by clicking here.

Christine R.

 

 

 

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PostHeaderIcon Your Inner Smile

I thought I would let you in on something I've been doing for myself for the past couple of weeks since I discovered this ancient Taoist practice that gives you an easy way to achieve a healthy state of mind, body and soul.  It’s a self help system for curing illness and stress and for enhancing all aspects of life.  The most famous practitioner of “The Inner Smile” is Grand Master Mantak Chia.  A google search will tell you more about him. 

For the best results Grand Master Chia recommends you practice the meditation both in the morning and at night before bed.  Your mood and sleep should improve, but only with practice, as with anything new. 

Sit comfortably on the edge of a chair with your palms on your knees.  Straighten your spine, lifting it up from the top of your head.  Then relax the muscles in your neck and throat.  Close your eyes.  If you believe you are tense, gently move your neck from side to side and take a couple of deep, deep breaths.  

Next, smile outwardly, using a positive memory to bring you a feeling of happiness.  And once you’ve a smile on your face, it’s time to smile inwardly. 

Picture a smiley face in your mind.  Bring that smile to the space between your eyebrows – your third eye or “yin tang” in Chinese medicine – allowing it to rest there for a few breaths. 

Now, take the smile and gently move it in turn to each part of your body.  Imagine your body as hollow and the smile as a glowing ball of light filling every dark corner.  If your smile gets stuck or fades at a tense of painful spot, breathe gently into that part of your body, imagining inhaled breath moving into that area.

If you’ve not meditated before, be aware that this is going to take some practice.  But it’s so worth it for the difference it will make to yourself and your life.

Reconnecting with your inner smile during the day – these are known as "half smiles".

1.  Put something in your bedroom that you see right away when you wake up.  Use this time before you get out of bed to take your first half smile of the day.   Do your morning full meditation before you leave for work or get started on your day.

 2.  Any free moments that you can find throughout the day… look at a child, a painting on the wall, a tree or just a cloud formation… anything that is relatively still.  Smile.  Inhale and exhale quietly three times.  Maintain the smile for as long as you can.

 3.  Angry?  Do your inner smile straight away.  Inhale and exhale quietly.  The anger should go away.

Having trouble imagining that “smiley face?”   Perhaps you’d enjoy the one I use.  I found it easier to concentrate on a smiley face that I'd actually seen.  I use a smiling sun, so that I can feel the warmth as well as enjoy the smile.  Click here to get your copy.  Print it out and put it in various places where you’re likely to practice your Inner Smile.  Enjoy.

 Christine R 

 

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PostHeaderIcon Missing In Action!…

Just looking at the date of the last post… I didn't realize I'd been neglecting you for so long.  Comes from being totally focused on something else!  

We decided that one of our original sites, ShopSmartHosting.com was hugely  in need of a revamp.  And what seemed a "bit of a job" turned into a huge one.  We found that it needed updating in all sorts of ways – layout, graphics and a whole lot more, and the days just got away from us.  

All finished now… so if you're about to put up a website online, you'll need a hosting program to do that.  Now I know how Neil and I struggled with the whole business of hosting, etc., when we were ready to put up our first site, so I've spent a good few days writing a report "Getting Started With Web Hosting".  It's available for free at ShopSmartHosting.com.  33 pages of information explaining the various forms of hosting and what to look for when you're choosing a host.  And including how to put up your site once you've got your hosting in place.  

If you decide to go with one of the plans we offer (they start at just US$4.95 a month, we've also put together a free video package which will really help you get started.  Details are on the site.  Here's to your new business!

Christine R.

 

"Success is never ending, failure is never final." – Dr. Robert Schuller

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PostHeaderIcon Taking Control of Your Life…

Are you frustrated by your challenges in life?  Do you have frequent feelings of being overwhelmed?  This can become a self perpetuating negative outlook and can make it even harder for you to manage those challenges and move forward.

Practicing positive thinking allows you to focus on your strengths and accomplishments, and this goes a long way to increasing your happiness and motivation.  In turn, this can allow us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling downright miserable and stuck.

Let's take a look at some practical suggestions that you could use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:

1. Take Good Care of Yourself –
It's much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.

2. Remind Yourself of What You Are Grateful For –
I've mentioned this before in previous posts. Stresses and challenges don't seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in your life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and
appreciate the good things can make a huge difference in your life.

3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions –
A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking. But our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member's bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Don't waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.

4. Try To Refrain from Using Absolutes –
Have you ever told a partner "You're ALWAYS late!" or complained to a friend "You NEVER call me!"? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like 'always' and 'never' makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of
delivering.

5. Detach Yourself From Negative Thoughts –
Your thoughts can't hold any power over you if you don't judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don't follow it. In fact, try to immediately replace it with a positive thought.

6. Squash the "ANTs" –
In his book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life," Dr. Daniel Amen talks about "ANTs" – Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like "Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me," or "The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!" When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!

7. Practice Lovin', Touchin' & Squeezin' (Your Friends and Family) –
You don't have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks.  She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn't touch!  Human contact… there's nothing like it.

8. Increase Your Social Activity –
By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. I know it's sometimes a huge effort, but you owe it to yourself to be surrounded with healthy, happy people.  Their positive energy can't help but affect you in a positive way!  Got a friend who's always being negative? Move on and find a new friend.  Seriously!

9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help Another Person –
Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.

10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Focusing On Negative Thoughts –
If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different.  Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It's never
productive, because it's not rational or solution-oriented. It's just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment – go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.

It all comes down to a very simple way to live your life… keep turning negatives into positives. It takes practice.  Sometimes lots of it if you've been going through a negative patch.  But by the time it becomes something you do automatically, you won't recognize yourself or your life.  Is it worth a try?

All the best.
Christine R.

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PostHeaderIcon Being Happy…

Not having a good day today?  Having trouble turning that frown upside down?  These might help…

1.  Be grateful and appreciate everything you have.

Quit focusing on what you don’t have.  Be grateful and appreciate all the good in your life.  It will really increase the possibility of happiness.  Some people keep a “grateful” diary and at the end of each day, write in it what they’ve been grateful for today.

2.  Surround yourself with positive people.

You can “catch” other people’s emotions.  So think hard on who you need as your friends. 

3.  Forgive.

A wise soul once wrote “Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die!”  Let go of old grudges.  Free yourself from that pain.  More happiness comes from less pain. 

4.  Declutter.

You’ve heard all about the mental benefits of decluttering!  Spend just one hour each weekend, starting with one room, until it’s all finished and tidy.  The next weekend, start again in another room.  Now, that’s not hard, is it?  And it’s a great feeling when you complete each room. 

5.  Buy yourself a gift!

There are some days when only shopping will help!  Give in to it. 

6.  Set small goals.

Yes, really small goals.  Work out your major goal.  Set four smaller goals that will help achieve the major one.  Decide which of the smaller goals to do first, second, etc.  Break the first one down into ridiculously small goals… and get the first one done now!  Still procrastinating?  Work on it for just five minutes.  A goal this small simply can’t be intimidating.  Right? 

7.  Delete unhelpful thoughts.

Find yourself thinking negative thoughts.  Stop.  And immediately replace that negative with a positive.  Repetition is the key.  Every negative thought to be replaced with positive.  Trust me… it will become a great habit and you’ll be a whole lot happier. 

8.  Talk like someone who is happy.

So you don’t feel happy today?  But if someone asks how you are, say “terrific” or “great” with a big smile.  Even faking it will improve your mood.  Go ahead… try it.  It works. 

9.  Get out into the fresh air.

It’s now been proven that low levels of Vitamin D can lead to osteoporosis.  Not fun!  If you’re a computerholic or an avid reader… just ten minutes of fresh air and sunshine will supply that Vitamin D as well as lifting your energy and your mood.  Don’t spend the whole lunch hour at your desk.  Aren’t you worth those ten minutes each day?  Or more? 

10.  Plan a trip.

Doesn’t matter if it’s ages away.  It’s having something to look forward to that will drag you through those dark days.  Can’t manage a big trip?  Heck… plan a series of one day outings with friends or family.  Put them in your calendar and start looking forward to them.

Nearly forgot a really big one!  Go out of your way to help someone today.  Think about it… commit to a random act of kindness each day.  Then enjoy the feeling, the euphoria, that can result from being kind to someone.

Want a copy of this "Being Happy" for yourself?  Download it right now.  Click here.  No cost.  In fact, if you know someone who would also enjoy this… you have giveaway rights, so just send it on to them, or tell them where to get it.

Be Happy!

Christine R.

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PostHeaderIcon What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do…

Feeling stuck about what to do with your career, your relationship, home, your health, your life in general?  Yes?  So, you'd agree that it’s time to move away from the computer screen or tv and take a good look at what’s turned you into the person you’re not liking today? 

Here’s the steps you could take to "unstick" yourself, and if you'd like your own copy of this as a reminder, you'll find a link at the end of this post, to download an A4 poster of these points. 

1.  Acknowledge the problem:  Understand that whatever you focus on is what you end up getting more of.  (Grab your free copy of “The Master Key” from the “Instant Access” button in the right hand column before you leave this page today).  It’s all those questions… “What am I going to do with my life?”  “What if I’m making the wrong decision?”  that have you stuck and unhappy. 

2.  Change your focus:  Ask yourself the right question… “What can I do?”  and this will have your brain looking for all the ways to make things work. 

3.  Find your motivation and put it on paper:  Discover what motivates you deep down.  Look at what it is you do when you’ve got free time.  Notice your own behaviour.  The right questions to ask yourself… “what did I do last weekend for fun?”  “what blogs did I visit?”  “what books did I read?”  “what am I really good at?”  Start a journal about the answers to these.  Seeing those answers in black and white will really bring the message home to you about where your true motivation lies. 

4.  Do what you love doing:  If you haven’t found your what you love yet, keep looking.  Never settle.  Know that you’ll know when you find it. 

5.  Trust that everything will work out for you:  This is absolutely the hardest step.  You need to let go of the fear that you’re going to make the wrong decisions.  Work very hard at believing that everything is going to be okay.  You have to trust in something and when you can and do, this approach will make all the difference.

Just five things to do.  Can't be that hard?  Right?  For a free, small poster of these five steps, that you can print out and put up somewhere you'll see it often… click here.   Please come on back and let me know if this helps.  Good luck.

Christine R.

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PostHeaderIcon Your free copy…

Here's a free download of the original "The Master Key System" book by Charles F Haanel that evolved into "The Law of Attraction" and then "The Secret".  Just head over to the right hand column and look for the "Instant Access" button.

I knew I had a copy of it somewhere.  I came across the book years and years ago, so it was just a case of finding it on my harddrive! Then I realized it was a bit of a mess.  So I've tidied it up.  No… I didn't change any of what Charles Haanel wrote… not a word.

You know, there's heaps of people who have read everything they could get their hands on about the Law of Attraction, and then Oprah Winfrey introduced them to The Secret.  But they're in chat rooms and forums around the internet, complaining that nothing works for them.  And I might know why it isn't.

As Mr. Haanel comments in his book...  "The Master Key" teaching has hitherto been published in the form of a Correspondence Course of 24 lessons, delivered to students one per week for 24 weeks.  The reader, who now receives the whole 24 parts at one times, is warned not to attempt to read the book like a novel, but to treat it as a course of study and conscientiously to imbibe the meaning of each part – reading and re-reading one part only per week before proceeding to the next.  Otherwise the later parts will tend to be misunderstood and the reader's time and money will be wasted."

We're all busy and time poor, but maybe if we didn't try to "devour" this information in as short a time as possible… it might work for us.

Look now in the right hand column to see where you can download your free copy of  "The Master Key System".  Simply click on the button and decide where you're going to file it for easy access.  Then why not set aside the time necessary each week to gradually absorb these life-changing lessons.

Christine R.


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