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PostHeaderIcon Will Your New Year Resolutions Last?

Making new year resolutions!  How many times have we all made resolutions for the new year – and given up almost immediately?  How familiar is that?    So, here's a helping hand for 2013.  Could be that these five tips just might help you succeed this time.

1.  Select and define your goals…
If you're trying to change your behaviour in some way, decide in advance what it is that you're going to achieve… and stick to it.  In fact… write it down and use it as an affirmation.  For example, you might set yourself an exercise goal of five days a week.  Perhaps a three drink limit on a night out.  Or allow yourself just one chocolate bar a week.  Don't kid yourself that "just one less" or "just one more" won't make a difference.  It will.

2.  Go Cold Turkey for a time… 
Stop the behaviour you're trying to change, altogether, temporarily.  Say you decide to abstain from caffeine,  alcohol or chocolate for four weeks as a start to your new year resolutions.  Doing this makes it much easier to moderate your intake in the future as it helps break that instinctive, habitual activity.

3.  Stop and think…
In that moment when the temptation appears – and it will – pause before you act.  Go do something else, or tell yourself again the reasons why you're trying to abstain or change.  Focus on the positive benefits that this change will bring to you.  Wait five minutes.  By then, the craving will probably have passed.

4.  Reward Yourself…
As each weekly and monthly milestone that you've set for your new year resolutions passes, and you've remained true to your goals, treat yourself to something special… and leave the guilt at home!  You deserve it.  Focus on what you have already achieved – success breeds success. If you slip up, don't punish yourself or use it as a reason to give up altogether (that's the "I just can't do this" excuse).  Just start again immediately. 

5. Choose Your Friends Wisely…
We tend to imitate the actions we experience around us.  If your current friends are all engaging in the negative behaviours you're trying to steer clear of, how would it be if you remove yourself from temptation, for a while at least?  Why not surround yourself with positive people whose attitudes towards life inspire you?

Realise that it's going to be hard at first.  These might be habits and behaviours that you've been indulging in for years!  Just decide that you can do this… then get on and do it.  Ready?  Grab a pen and paper and set those new year resolutions now.  Have a wonderful 2013.  May it bring you everything you're wishing for.  Good luck.

Christine 

P.S.  Check the last post "A Merry Christmas Gift" before the last tick of 2012 when it expires.  Don't want you to miss out.

 

PostHeaderIcon Enjoy Life More…

A famous quote… "Two men look out through the same bars: one sees the mud, and one sees the stars."  So says Frederick Langbridge in his "A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts" (which, if you're interested, you'll find at Google Books and probably Amazon). 

Life is filled with choices.  Is yours a pessimist’s view; living a self-defeated life or do you take the optimist’s route, enjoying a challenging and fulfilling life?  Let me ask you… if you’ve placed second in a contest, do you jump for joy and push for better results the next time or are you discouraged and find an excuse not to do this again? 
 
Optimism provides a positive mood and a good life. It allows you academic, athletic and occupational success as well as good health and a potentially longer life.
 
Rates of depression and pessimism have never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. The age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder but also a teenager’s disorder’ as well.
 
It really pays to be an optimist.  Optimists expect the best… from themselves and from others.  While pessimists tend to believe bad events are their own fault. 
 
Optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks as the pessimists of this world. What's different is the way they deal with their misfortune.   They tend to focus on and plan for the 'problem' at hand. They use 'positive reinterpretation.'  In other words, they interpret any negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow.  They're unfazed by a bad situation. They see it as challenge, and try harder.  They don’t say “things will never get better,” or “If I failed once, it will happen again.”  If they fall, they stand up again. They see opportunities instead of obstacles.  And people respond positively to optimists.
 
Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and it can influence the people around them.
 
Optimists persevere. They don’t give up easily.  They're also known for their patience, inching their way a step closer to that goal or dream.  Optimists also tend to be healthier and live longer.  Simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body's ability to fight disease, so their health is usually good. They age well; are freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age. And they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts. 
 
Have I described you?  Are you one of life's optimists?  Or have you been suffering as a pessimist?  You're the only one that can change this.  It really is just a state of mind.  Your mind.  Why not decide to be an optimist?  And think positively towards a more fulfilled life.
 
Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors?  Why not be resilient?  Like everyone else you are bound to hit lows sometimes… just don't stay there.  Carry yourself out of "the mud" and get back on the right track. 
 
The next time you find yourself with the blues, try giving yourself a good talking to. This is something that has worked for me for years.  Try "this isn't me!"  And "come on (your name) what's the positive side to this?"  Or "How do I improve this situation… now?!"  Find something that works for you, before that usual pessimism really takes hold again.  
 
Use this technique every time you find yourself miserable… for whatever reason.  There's no magic solution.  If you've spent most of your life as a pessimist, it's going to take work.  And time.  But the rewards are huge.  Can you imagine living your life as a hopeful, happy, confident person?  Expecting the best and seeing the best in everything?
 
Decide that this "miserable person" isn't you.  Remove those dark glasses and start to see life on the bright side.  Would today be a good day to start?
 
Christine R.
 
P.S. I've been thinking about what I could do to help.  If you believe that your overall pessimism may be due to stress, perhaps I can.  It's darned hard to be optimistic if you're stressed out.  Go to the Stress Relief section under the Health & Wellness heading above here.  There are three terrific products there to help with stress.  Decide which one suits your particular needs and click on the "Click Here to Order Now" button for that one.  You'll see a section "Enter Coupon Code".  Enter "60%off" without the inverted commas; click "Apply" and you'll see the amount reduce to the new, much lower figure.  I can't leave it like this for long. Just until the next time I post, in a day or two.  If you think it's stress that's holding you back… check this out now.
 
"There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure." – Colin Powell
 
 

PostHeaderIcon 10 Steps To Prosperity & Fulfilment

So you want to be successful, healthy, happily married, and rich?   Do you feel like a successful, healthy, happily married, accepted, rich person?  Or are you experiencing feelings of resistance, frustration, anxiety and insecurity?

Are you feeling needy, lost, rejected and deprived?  Are you envious of what someone else has?  Do you feel guilty and identify with poverty and failure?  Are you surrounded by people who don't believe in you?

It can happen to us all.  But if you're constantly feeling negative about money, success and yourself, you are being defined by lack. If so, your wish for success will remain just that – a wish. If you continually feel depressed, annoyed, upset, and irritated with yourself or the outside world, you are generating heaps of negative vibrations. 

What if I told you that it's up to you to create an alternate future and set forces to work for you, rather then against you. Habits are like clothes… you wear them.  They fit your personality and self-image.  Some clothes make you feel like a million dollars while others make you feel fat.  So often, we wear the same old clothes just because we are used to them.  The same can be said for mental habits and feelings.

More than 90% of your thoughts and reactions were learned.  Whenever a situation arises that reminds you of the past you tend to interpret it through old emotional responses.  If you were bullied a lot as a child, you have to help yourself move through your fearful feelings every time you're reminded of the bullying. 

When you deal with your feelings and imagine your life as you'd like it to be, you're starting to heal your past memory and move into the present moment.  Instead of being reactive you become proactive!

Let's get started on turning those negative feelings around.  Here's 10 helping hands towards the life you deserve… one of prosperity and fulfilment:

1. Listen to your inner conversations.  What are your mental habits telling you?  A poverty mindset knows why things can't work out.  A successful mindset always steps up to the plate and looks for a way to work through a crisis. Start having discussions with yourself the moment you feel a hysterical reaction coming on.  If you get in the habit of intervening on your own behalf you will start to hold a correct attitude and change your emotional reactions.

2. Meet the Challenge.  If you have a melt down and lose your focus, freak out, and go into an emotional tail spin, once it's over go back to your image and refocus.  You don't have to beat yourself up because you "lost" it.  A fall out doesn't have to become a major set back.  You are learning to identify when you are vibrating from an error pattern.  Things may still scare and upset you for awhile.Y  ou are in the process of building self-trust and self-confidence. You will be able to meet an obstacle every step of the way once you develop a good relationship with your deeper Self.

3. Congratulate yourself.  Give yourself credit when you react to a negative situation as an opportunity rather then a setback.  Get in the habit of comforting and nourishing yourself when things don't go right and you'll start not to succumb to destructive emotions.  Each time you do this you'll make a deposit into your emotional security bank.  And feeling safe and secure is the vibration that attracts prosperity.  Keep investing in yourself and you will start to resonate with abundance and optimism.  Before you know it, you will start feeling entitled to having good relationships and success!

4. Throw off the old you.  If something happens that threatens your peace of mind, reassure yourself that all is well. How?  Direct all of your attention to that which is good.  Focus is the winner's companion. In time you will learn how to keep your cool when those debilitating thoughts show up.

5. Treat yourself well.  You don't need to prove that you are a failure anymore. You need to treat yourself like someone you love and care about. Once you get in the habit of feeling lovable and acceptable you will repel abusive people.

6. Let go. I t is time to clean house and surrender your concepts of lack.  Why allow negative people to scramble your brain?  Why keep reminding yourself of painful uncomfortable times?  Let go and let the Power work for you.  Let go means let go!  Make room for the money, success, healing, and fulfilling relationships you desire to be drawn to you.  You deserve to feel like you are Number 1. If you need to have a good cry, have it.  Once it's over persist in letting the "old you" go.

7. Accept Responsibility.  Make changes gradually and you will start feeling better about yourself.  Start to imagine the new you.  How many times do you need to do this?  Do it and do it and do it until you change your emotional point of attraction.

8. Commit to new results.  Keep the partnership between your conscious and subconscious mind strong and success will be your closest companion.

9. Feel like a million bucks.  Feel good. If you want to realize your dream for success, start feeling grateful about your success. Accentuate the positive and you'll build up your vibrational frequency.

10. Don't look back!   Once you have consciously imagined a new result, don't turn your attention back to your former concept of yourself.  If you do, you will reimpress yourself with what you don't want, and go back to a lower emotional frequency.  Success, health, happiness and wealth don't just pop in.  Most visionaries who are wealthy, successful, healthy, and happy have certain things in common.  These people have a certain mindset that include big dreams, good habits, imagination, strong positive beliefs, unshakable inner confidence and a connection to The Source of All That Is.

They don't just "talk the talk, they walk the walk".   Be like them… use spiritual principles to attract positive outcomes by focusing your conscious mind and absorb new ideas until you feel entitled to the gift of a new experience.  You'll start to love and enjoy the adventure of life.  You'll attract money, opportunities, good people, and harmonious situations that reflect your new mindset.

The only thing standing between you and the fulfilment of your dreams is an opposing belief and feeling… not bad luck or a past life.   If you truly want to bring the object of your thoughts into manifestation you have to make a conscious decision to get in the habit of feeling prosperous, happy, grateful, accepted, healthy, loved and successful… here and now.

I really hope this works for you.  If you truly try your best with these ten steps and it doesn't appear to be working for you, then perhaps you need the more detailed help that's available at DiscoverTheLawOfAttraction.com

Would it help to have a copy of these 10 steps?  Just click here to safely download a free pdf file.  Then save it to your harddrive, perhaps with the others you see at "Download A Copy" in the left hand column.

Remember… there is no-one to change but yourself and no-one can do it but you.  Good luck.

Christine R

 

PostHeaderIcon “Being Happy” Can Be Easy…

For the lucky ones, happiness comes easily, but for most of us, it's something we need to work at.  The good news is that it's not hard, if you know how.  By practising the principles of the CHOOSE philosophy, you can boost your happiness and your wellbeing.

Clarity (of goals, direction and life purpose).  Set clear targets and make specific plans to ensure they become reality.
 
Healthy living (activity and exercise, diet, nurtrition and sleep).  It's hard to be happy if you're sick and tired all the time.  Do whatever you can to be healthy and you boost your chances of cracking a smile.
 
Optimism (positive, but realistic, thinking).  Happy people see themselves and the world differently.  They search for more positives.  This is a learned behaviour, so start practising now!
 
Others (the key relationshipsin your life).  Research indicates that happy people have more (and better quality) relationships than those who are negative.  Devote time to developing and fostering your key connections.
 
Strengths (your qualities and attributes).  Rather than spending time trying to fix their "weaknesses", happy  people use more time identifying and utilising their strengths.  Find out what you're good at and do it as much as possible.
 
Enjoy (things… and live in and appreciate the present).  By taking in the moment, you'll love life a lot more.
 
A big "thank you" to Dr. Timothy Sharp, aka Dr. Happy for these words.  Give it a try?
 
Christine R.
 
 
 

PostHeaderIcon Impossible Is Just A Word

Haven't you dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big?  How many guys haven't fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning homerun or creating the next big thing in computer software?  What young lady hasn't dreamed of being the homecoming queen or a world famous model… or singer?  And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?

We dream big dreams and have great aspirations.  But for most people, dreams remain just that – dreams!  Instead of experiencing exciting adventures we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day.  But you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher.
 
The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible.  Most people get hung up thinking "I can't do this."  "It's too hard."  "It's impossible. No one can do this."  But just think… if everyone thought like that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment.  Limit yourself with self-doubt, and you will never be able to break past what you've decided is impossible. 
 
Try this exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in your life.  Go ahead… write down anything and everything you've ever wished for or dreamed about.  Take another piece of paper and under one heading of "things I know I can do’ make a list.  Under another heading write the things ‘I might be able to do.’  And under one more, list the things that that are ‘impossible for me to do.’   Think about it before completing the last list.  Don't add to it things that are really unrealistic.  By now, you've added all the things on your original list of goals, to one of the three columns.
 
Why should you do all this?  Simple… if you have no goals in life, then you truly are "just existing".  Why not decide to change this… today!
 
Now look at the headings and your lists.  Strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things ‘I know I can do’.  Check them off as you accomplish them.  Believe me, that's a really good feeling and can be quite addictive… which is good.  Right?  Once you are able to check all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the next heading – the one that reads ‘I might be able to do.’
 
As all of the items you wrote under "I might be able to do" are accomplished, you can move the goals that are under things that are ‘impossible for me to do’ to the list of things ‘I might be able to do.’
 
As you go gradually through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible become easier to accomplish.  Those "impossibles" begin to seem possible after all.   The technique here is to not limit your imagination.  It is to aim high, and start working towards that goal little by little.  Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard towards it, end up disappointed and disillusioned.
 
If you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind.  But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.
 
Ask any gym junkie and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you strive out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying, “No pain, no gain”?  That is as true as it can be.
 
So dream on my friend!   Don’t get caught up, or held back, with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain your dreams.  Putting your dreams on paper is the first step.  Then, as you step up the ladder of progress towards your goals, you will find out that the "impossible" has just become a little bit more possible.
 
Christine R.
 
"You are as amazing as you let yourself be. 
Let me repeat that. You are as amazing as you let yourself be". 
~Elizabeth Alraune
 
 
 

PostHeaderIcon Taking Control of Your Life…

Are you frustrated by your challenges in life?  Do you have frequent feelings of being overwhelmed?  This can become a self perpetuating negative outlook and can make it even harder for you to manage those challenges and move forward.

Practicing positive thinking allows you to focus on your strengths and accomplishments, and this goes a long way to increasing your happiness and motivation.  In turn, this can allow us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling downright miserable and stuck.

Let's take a look at some practical suggestions that you could use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:

1. Take Good Care of Yourself –
It's much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.

2. Remind Yourself of What You Are Grateful For –
I've mentioned this before in previous posts. Stresses and challenges don't seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in your life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and
appreciate the good things can make a huge difference in your life.

3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions –
A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking. But our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member's bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Don't waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.

4. Try To Refrain from Using Absolutes –
Have you ever told a partner "You're ALWAYS late!" or complained to a friend "You NEVER call me!"? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like 'always' and 'never' makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of
delivering.

5. Detach Yourself From Negative Thoughts –
Your thoughts can't hold any power over you if you don't judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don't follow it. In fact, try to immediately replace it with a positive thought.

6. Squash the "ANTs" –
In his book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life," Dr. Daniel Amen talks about "ANTs" – Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like "Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me," or "The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!" When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!

7. Practice Lovin', Touchin' & Squeezin' (Your Friends and Family) –
You don't have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks.  She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn't touch!  Human contact… there's nothing like it.

8. Increase Your Social Activity –
By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. I know it's sometimes a huge effort, but you owe it to yourself to be surrounded with healthy, happy people.  Their positive energy can't help but affect you in a positive way!  Got a friend who's always being negative? Move on and find a new friend.  Seriously!

9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help Another Person –
Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.

10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Focusing On Negative Thoughts –
If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different.  Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It's never
productive, because it's not rational or solution-oriented. It's just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment – go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.

It all comes down to a very simple way to live your life… keep turning negatives into positives. It takes practice.  Sometimes lots of it if you've been going through a negative patch.  But by the time it becomes something you do automatically, you won't recognize yourself or your life.  Is it worth a try?

All the best.
Christine R.

PostHeaderIcon Being Happy…

Not having a good day today?  Having trouble turning that frown upside down?  These might help…

1.  Be grateful and appreciate everything you have.

Quit focusing on what you don’t have.  Be grateful and appreciate all the good in your life.  It will really increase the possibility of happiness.  Some people keep a “grateful” diary and at the end of each day, write in it what they’ve been grateful for today.

2.  Surround yourself with positive people.

You can “catch” other people’s emotions.  So think hard on who you need as your friends. 

3.  Forgive.

A wise soul once wrote “Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die!”  Let go of old grudges.  Free yourself from that pain.  More happiness comes from less pain. 

4.  Declutter.

You’ve heard all about the mental benefits of decluttering!  Spend just one hour each weekend, starting with one room, until it’s all finished and tidy.  The next weekend, start again in another room.  Now, that’s not hard, is it?  And it’s a great feeling when you complete each room. 

5.  Buy yourself a gift!

There are some days when only shopping will help!  Give in to it. 

6.  Set small goals.

Yes, really small goals.  Work out your major goal.  Set four smaller goals that will help achieve the major one.  Decide which of the smaller goals to do first, second, etc.  Break the first one down into ridiculously small goals… and get the first one done now!  Still procrastinating?  Work on it for just five minutes.  A goal this small simply can’t be intimidating.  Right? 

7.  Delete unhelpful thoughts.

Find yourself thinking negative thoughts.  Stop.  And immediately replace that negative with a positive.  Repetition is the key.  Every negative thought to be replaced with positive.  Trust me… it will become a great habit and you’ll be a whole lot happier. 

8.  Talk like someone who is happy.

So you don’t feel happy today?  But if someone asks how you are, say “terrific” or “great” with a big smile.  Even faking it will improve your mood.  Go ahead… try it.  It works. 

9.  Get out into the fresh air.

It’s now been proven that low levels of Vitamin D can lead to osteoporosis.  Not fun!  If you’re a computerholic or an avid reader… just ten minutes of fresh air and sunshine will supply that Vitamin D as well as lifting your energy and your mood.  Don’t spend the whole lunch hour at your desk.  Aren’t you worth those ten minutes each day?  Or more? 

10.  Plan a trip.

Doesn’t matter if it’s ages away.  It’s having something to look forward to that will drag you through those dark days.  Can’t manage a big trip?  Heck… plan a series of one day outings with friends or family.  Put them in your calendar and start looking forward to them.

Nearly forgot a really big one!  Go out of your way to help someone today.  Think about it… commit to a random act of kindness each day.  Then enjoy the feeling, the euphoria, that can result from being kind to someone.

Want a copy of this "Being Happy" for yourself?  Download it right now.  Click here.  No cost.  In fact, if you know someone who would also enjoy this… you have giveaway rights, so just send it on to them, or tell them where to get it.

Be Happy!

Christine R.

PostHeaderIcon What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do…

Feeling stuck about what to do with your career, your relationship, home, your health, your life in general?  Yes?  So, you'd agree that it’s time to move away from the computer screen or tv and take a good look at what’s turned you into the person you’re not liking today? 

Here’s the steps you could take to "unstick" yourself, and if you'd like your own copy of this as a reminder, you'll find a link at the end of this post, to download an A4 poster of these points. 

1.  Acknowledge the problem:  Understand that whatever you focus on is what you end up getting more of.  (Grab your free copy of “The Master Key” from the “Instant Access” button in the right hand column before you leave this page today).  It’s all those questions… “What am I going to do with my life?”  “What if I’m making the wrong decision?”  that have you stuck and unhappy. 

2.  Change your focus:  Ask yourself the right question… “What can I do?”  and this will have your brain looking for all the ways to make things work. 

3.  Find your motivation and put it on paper:  Discover what motivates you deep down.  Look at what it is you do when you’ve got free time.  Notice your own behaviour.  The right questions to ask yourself… “what did I do last weekend for fun?”  “what blogs did I visit?”  “what books did I read?”  “what am I really good at?”  Start a journal about the answers to these.  Seeing those answers in black and white will really bring the message home to you about where your true motivation lies. 

4.  Do what you love doing:  If you haven’t found your what you love yet, keep looking.  Never settle.  Know that you’ll know when you find it. 

5.  Trust that everything will work out for you:  This is absolutely the hardest step.  You need to let go of the fear that you’re going to make the wrong decisions.  Work very hard at believing that everything is going to be okay.  You have to trust in something and when you can and do, this approach will make all the difference.

Just five things to do.  Can't be that hard?  Right?  For a free, small poster of these five steps, that you can print out and put up somewhere you'll see it often… click here.   Please come on back and let me know if this helps.  Good luck.

Christine R.

PostHeaderIcon Self Esteem 1. Positive Outlook

Positive Outlook… Positive Life.  It’s rare for self improvement or self development to be successful before most people’s low self esteem has been firstly admitted to, and then looked at and worked at.  And yes, believe me when I say that this is something that you can do.

 

Don’t think for a minute that that loud bully at college or at work doesn’t have self esteem problems.  He’s just hiding behind all that bluster and noise.  It’s called “a front!”  And most of us have “a front” in some form or another.  It’s what we hide behind from the world, when we think we need to.  Some people’s fronts are aggressive and confronting; others are aloof and supercilious.  And there's everything in between.

 

Make yourself a promise today.  You’re not going to hide any longer.  You’re going to admit to problems with your self esteem, and work on it.  Let’s get started. 

 

Our outlook and attitude on life in general, plays a huge part in how happy we are and how successful we become.  Someone who thinks positively about everything will be more relaxed, calm and smiling more than someone who is always looking on the bad side, who lets stress get to them and who constantly wears a frown.

 

Not only does how you think and feel affect you, it also affects those around you.  In short… our mood affects our day.  Developing and keeping a positive outlook is essential if you wish to lead a positive and fulfilling life.

 

There are many ways in which you can develop a more positive outlook and begin to change how you think and feel about many situations that you encounter in day-to-day living.

 

Changing your attitude and not slipping back into negative thinking will take time to adopt, but eventually the new outlook will become second nature. The five main key points to remember when attempting to change your outlook are:

 

1.    Turn your way of thinking into positive thinking and practice thinking positively on a daily basis.  Set your mind on completing one task at a time and think only of a positive outcome and how good you will feel when you have completed the task. Never give in to doubt and let yourself believe that you have taken too much on and just keep going.

2.    Don’t let your conversations turn negative.  When in a conversation it is easy to let others discourage you, particularly if they have a negative outlook on life. Don’t be tempted to fall back into your old ways.  Turn negative talk into positive and look for the good in everything and any situation.

3.    Look for the positive in those around you and point it out to them.  This way you’ll be encouraging a positive attitude in all those around you.

4.    Whatever you are doing in your day-to-day life always look for the good in it.  It might be a boring task which you usually hate doing and one which leaves you feeling negatively.  Try to find something about it that turns it into a more positive situation.

5.    Never let yourself become distracted or hoodwinked into going back to negativity.  It takes time to change the way you feel and think, and if you have been down on yourself and the world for a long time then your new outlook will take a while to register, stay around and become your usual outlook.

 

You will find over time that many areas of your life can be changed.  Just by changing your outlook from a negative one to a more positive.  You’ll find that your self-esteem improves, you become more popular, you feel happier and are more confident than before. You become able to tackle the tasks you once hated without them causing you stress and anxiety and your relationships improve.

 

These are just a few of the areas where you can self-improve, work on a more positive outlook and lead a more positive life.

 

 

“We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.”  ~Mary Dunbar

 

NOTE:  This is the first of a 22 part course on self esteem.  You'll find free access via the Tutorials page listed above.

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